For The Love
Of Spanking
Yes, spanking can be sexy, and a majority of
women have fantasies about being spanked. Most men, too, find spanking a women
to be a strong sexual turn-on.
But sexual spanking is not the same as the
punishment spanking we may have experienced as children.
For a woman, the turn-on is not so much in
the sensation of pain as it is in the feeling of helpless submission and
vulnerability of being bent over her partner’s lap, the attention being paid to
her behind (a primary erotic zone), the feeling of a man’s hand warming her
butt, and the anticipation of sexual pleasures to come.
For a man, the arousing aspect of spanking is
the feeling of control and power over his helpless lover, and the excitement of
playing with her attractive bottom, turning it pink and putting her in the mood
for some hot, passionate, carnal, sex.
To master the art of erotic spanking, it is
important to understand the following six principles..
-- The butt is a prime erogenous zone;
however, unlike other zones such as the breasts and back of the neck, the
sexual arousal nerves in the bottom are buried in a layer of fat and require
harder stimulation- like in spanking- to trigger them.
-- The physiological process of sexual arousal demands that before orgasm can occur, blood must be collected and kept in the genitals and nearby areas. Spanking creates just such physiological response, as the stinging of the skin causes blood to collect in the bottom (and simultaneously in the nearby genitals), thus accomplishing ‘mechanically’ what caresses and kisses do psychologically.
-- A properly done spanking, such as over the
knee or with a cushion or other support propping up the woman’s bottom, causes
the bottom to squirm from the sting, simultaneously resulting in her rubbing her
clitoris on the supporting knee, pillow, etc.
-- The feeling of “surrender” or submission is an important
part of a woman’s sexual response, as many women need to give up control and
give themselves “permission” to feel sexual. Spanking incites and reinforces
such feelings.
--However, a woman must feel safe before she can give up
control and surrender. Therefore, you must first earn her trust before
attempting the game of erotic spanking. You must equate spanking with sexual
pleasure, eschewing any anger, sado-masochistic impulses or desires to
humiliate her.
-- The tacit understanding, no matter what the role play,
should be that spanking is a form of foreplay, and that orgasm is the goal of
both players. Therefore, the actual spanks should be mixed with caresses and
gentle rubbing of her bottom and genitalia, and other foreplay if possible
(like adding toys, vibrating wands, etc).
Sexual
Spanking
To use spanking in your sexual repertoire, it
is always good to do a little role playing. You can play the stern guardian or headmaster punishing the
naughty schoolgirl, or the offended husband or lover pretending to punish his
wife or girlfriend for some imaginary transgression.
There are hundreds of roles that can be used
as an “excuse” to give your lover a sexy over-the-knee spanking, but whatever
role you choose to play, here are some tips to make it especially sexy…
1. Give her a specific “punishment” time and make her wait for it.
The anticipation will add to her sexual arousal and increase
her receptivity. You can accentuate this by making her wear ben wa balls or
play with herself at regular intervals while waiting for her spanking. Of
course, you will want to ensure that she obeys your instructions and that she
knows her spanking will be harder if she disobeys.
2. Order her to
“prepare herself” for her spanking.
This could mean taking a bath and making herself clean and
beautiful, or dressing in a particular way (i.e in a schoolgirl outfit, in sexy
lingerie, or a sexy costume). Tell her that the length of her spanking will
depend on how beautiful you find her at the appointed time. These acts of
preparing herself will have a direct effect on her state of arousal, as it will
make her think about it constantly.
3. Take your time to
inspect her appearance when she presents herself for her spanking.
Comment on every aspect that might add to her punishment or
subtract from it, and let your eyes and hands inspect every inch of her body.
The intense scrutiny you are giving her will intensify her excitement.
4. Before beginning
the spanking, make her perform a ritual.
This could be kneeling in front of you and begging for
forgiveness for the imaginary transgression. Always agree that she will be
forgiven after her “punishment,” as you don’t want to humiliate her. You should
act as if you are only spanking her “for her own good,” and you might even tell
her about how you intend to ravish her if she is a “good girl” during her
spanking.
So what should you do once you have her across your knees?
Find out how to perform the perfect sexual spanking...
5. When she is across
your knees, take your time before starting.
Play with her bottom, squeezing and “testing” its firmness
and fullness; you can feel between her legs to see if she is getting wet. Tell
her what you are going to do to her bottom, and how it will look in a few
minutes. If you feel her trembling with excitement, you know she is really
ready!
6. Ease into the
heavier spanking.
When you actually start the spanking, you may start by
spanking her over her clothing, then over her panties (if you have her wearing
them). Once you have warmed her butt, you will always want to spank her on her
bare bottom, as that is the sexiest kind of spanking.
Alternate a dozen or so spanks with rubs of her butt, using
firm but very sexual stroking to spread the warmth all over her rump. A finger
between her legs can be used to get her breathing faster. You can also
alternate spanks with gentle rubbing of her clitoris, tugging of her labia, or
caressing her anus. This will make her associate spanking with other
pleasurable sensations, thus conditioning her to get aroused to spanking. Take
your time, savoring every smack and every feel of that delectable behind.
7. Use the right
technique.
The slightly cupped palm with fingers together is the best
way to spank, as it makes a good smacking sound and reddens the skin without
causing excessive pain. If she seems to be unmoved by such spanks, you can give
her a few with a flat palm and spread (relaxed) fingers- those are the
stingiest- until she squirms or responds.
A slow tempo, with an irregular rhythm, is the best
technique, as the moments of anticipation between each stroke add to the
tension; and if she cannot tell when the next stroke might fall, it is doubly
effective in increasing her arousal.
Again, take your time. Remember, it is not the number of spanks or how
hard they are that brings her to a high state of sexual readiness. It is how long and how deeply she feels
her submissive helplessness and total sexual stimulation of her bottom that is
the key.
Spank Her Right
A really good spanker can sometimes bring her partner to
climax from such a sexy over-the-knee spanking. But every lover who knows his
partner’s symptoms of arousal can judge when the time is right to shift her
from the spanking position to implement on his erect shaft, which should be
hard and ready from having her naked bottom squirming over it.
So take our advice and give it a try…use your hands and let
the new heights of intimacy over take you both. Don’t worry…you can thank us
later.
