Anal 101

Before you let your loved one go, where no man or woman has gone before for you...

here are some 1st timer tips and advice.

1. First and foremost,
one must NEVER feel pressured into anal sex, if you feel hesitation about it, then don't do it.
Wait til you look into it more, read about it, do your research.
Once you have done your research and are ready and relaxed then proceed with caution.

2. Always practice safe sex by having your partner wear a condom.
The rectum is filled with bacteria and has sensitive tissue that can tear and without a condom, you put yourself at risk for infections and STD's.

3.  The tissue in the rectum is very sensitive and has many nerve endings & blood vessels.
There are 2 retracting  muscles that are called sphincters.
The external sphincter can be retracted voluntarily, while the internal sphincter is involuntary, especially when you're tense or nervous the internal sphincter won't retract and may not be as easily accessible. In this occasion, practice really does make perfect!

Try practicing with a slim anal plug,

by working the external sphincter, it is possible to provoke a reflex reaction of the internal sphincter. A tense self means a clenched butt & it won't be as enjoyable.

4. LUBE, LUBE, & MORE LUBE!

 The anal cavity doesn't produce it's own lubricant, so a great quality lubricant make a huge difference, if there isn't any anal toys involved, a slick silicone lubricant is highly recommended, so re-application isn't needed.

However, if there is anal toys involved,

a water based lubricant is recommended, but re-application may be needed.

5. Anal sex should NOT hurt, not even a little, if it does, it's your body saying for you to stop.

If you insist on getting a numbing agent to not feel anything, such as

Anal Blu, is a lubricant & a numbing agent.

For 1st timers this isn't a great idea to use, simply because, if you're numb,

how can you feel if there is any discomfort?

Pain, is the body's natural indicator of something going wrong.

There are products that help relax the internal sphincter muscle, such as

Intimate Organics Adventure & Daring.

These require to applied about 5 to 10 minutes before.

6. Grooming and Cleanliness...

Grooming, if you feel comfortable with, shaving or waxing, it's a preference.
Some may say that removing the hair in the area helps with any hair being pulled during anal sex. 

Cleanliness, as far as in the anal cavity, varies from person to person, and there are many factors that can play a part into this, your regular diet, how your bowel movements are, and if you're a healthy person, overall, you have a pretty clean butt!

If you wanted to go further in the extreme clean, there are anal douches or enemas, which consist of just warm water to flush out the fecal matter that may be there.

7. Now with the right person, and proceeding at your desired speed, have fun!

Despite there being many taboos with anal sex,

 anal sex isn't for everyone, but when done right, it can be very exciting AND enjoyable for both

men & women!

Hot Summer, Hotter Nights...

With all the hot weather, there is bound to be frisky activity under water...
here are just some useful tips to think about on these hot & steamy nights!

1. Underwater Sex

When getting it on underwater, your own natural lubrication washes away and that increases the chance of getting tiny tears in your vagina as the thrusting motion goes on.

Having vaginal abrasions makes you vulnerable to getting infections as well as STD's.
Using a condom under water isn't in your best interest, chlorine + the friction
from a lack of lubrication can cause the latex to break.
With out a condom, there's a chance for pregnancy & STD's.
With the condom breaking AND then vaginal tears = not a sexy time.

Your best bet is to use a silicone lubricant, such as Wet Platinum

 a little bit of a silicone lube applied prior to entering the water
is going to eliminate the lack of your own body's secretions
and most silicone lubricants are latex safe.
Silicone has a very similar consistency to oil.
Oil and water doesn't mix, and oil doesn't dry out.

2. Sex on the Beach
Yes, it's romantic and it's a sexy scene in 'From Here to Eternity',

but anyone who has literally had sex on the beach, will say it's not all that great.
The sand in all sorts of places where it shouldn't be, is not only uncomfortable, but just unsanitary!
Sand is basically tiny microscopic rocks & minerals, and sand has a ton of bacteria and feces in it too. So needless to say having sex on the sand itself, isn't safe, but a large blanket type towel underneath you and your partner is the safest way to live out your sexy fantasy.
Leaving your hands to just above the waste fondling, just to be absolutely sure that no sand gets on, or in, your privates.

3. Hot Tub Sex

If it's your hot tub, GO FOR IT!
Don't forget the silicone lubricant!
If it's a public hot tub, I would put the brakes on that idea.
Foot fungi and folliculitis, (inflammation around one or more hair follicles) can be picked up in public hot tubs, the hot temperature of the tub makes it easier for germs to stay alive.
If you insist on hot tubs, try to observe that not too many strangers are hopping in and out of the hot tub. Shower right after the hot tub, maybe even take your romp to the shower instead of the hot tub.

As long as you stay informed and approach with caution,
have a ton of safe & exciting sex!

Making Fireworks Every Other Day...

In the United States, we tend to celebrate out country's birthday with fireworks,

 but how can one individual make fireworks year round in their bedroom?

There is one common problem that has been plaguing the nation...

* There isn't enough lubrication in your sexy romp.*

This is actually a common problem and isn't only because one gets older,
this happens to younger women too.

There are a couple of reasons for not being lubed up enough,
pre-menopausal, stress, low-estrogen birth control pills,
undiagnosed yeast infections, breastfeeding, and certain medications,
such as anti-depressants & antihistamines, can dry you out.

There is a couple of ways to tackle the problem.

1. Ask For MORE Foreplay

i.e. oral sex from him, more hand stimulation on your clitoris and clitoral hood, or stimulation on your key spots that make you weak in the knees! Just starting on foreplay, and not taking more time on it, results in, most women, rushing too quickly into intercourse and then the session is not as enjoyable as it could have been.You could end up sore and at risk for a yeast infection.

2. Look for a lubricant that is best for you.

If you already know that you are very prone to getting yeast infections,
consult your gynecologist into one that works best,
one that is commonly suggested is Sliquid,

 an organic, paraben & glycerine free, latex friendly, 100% vegan is a great choice.

If you have no known allergies & don't have a sensitive vagina,

Wet Synergy Water + Silicone 

is a fabulous hybrid formula that gives you the benefits of both water and silicone lubricants!

The universal lubricant starts out as gel then thins out to a silky non-sticky feel. A little dab of this lubricant goes a long way.

If you're are intending to make your 1+1= Baby, most doctors say that lubricants and saliva actually kill sperm and/or slow them down. There are some lubricant's out on the market that don't harm his little guys

Pre-Seed is one that claims to actually help his little guys swim!

Now if you & your partner prefer a very light formula of lubricant,
one that will, quicker than regular ones, dry out
so that your own natural secretions take over the job. 

Wet Light Water Based Lubricant is a great choice 

it has a higher water content than most lubricant and less glycerine.

For those looking for a lubricant that can help 

with over all well-being and is certified organic,

Intimate Organics Defense

would be a fabulous selection.

Defense is a 'protection' lubricant containing both 

Caarrageean (Sea Kelp) and Guava Bark Anti-Bacterial extract. 

Studies show carrageenan inhibits the infectious ability of viruses 

that cause cervical cancer and genital warts. 

Guava Bark has been used as a douche to treat and prevent yeast infections. 

It claims to provide natural safety and protection in a light, long lasting lubricant.

An important note to always remember, 

any and all suggestions for lubricants, 

if any irritation occurs discontinue use immediately.

Choosing a lubricant isn't a 'one size fits all' situation, 

so always choose carefully.

Have a safe & fun weekend!