Want to introduce your boyfriend or husband to your vibrator?
If you don't know how he will react to a sex toy,
or if you fear a bad response,
follow these tips to put his mind at ease
and start having a lot more fun in the bedroom.
Start out with simple communication.
Communication is KEY!
How does he feel about sex toys?
Does he feel like they would be an interesting addition to playtime?
Or does he feel threatened?
Does he think he'll be replaced by a sex toys?
Reassure him that vibrators are an enhancement to sex,
just like lit candles or music.
Let him know that many vibrators are
made to stimulate both of you.
Reassure him that experimenting with sex toys
can be a fun adventure for the both of you
to embark on together.
Assure him that he's good enough.
He might be scared that he's not doing things right,
and become insecure.
Let him know that just because you want to
add a new element to sex,
doesn't mean you want to replace the him.
Let him know that you want sex
to remain an adventure for both of you,
and that sex toys can keep things fresh,
and adding something a little extra,
can be fun!
Let him know about any insecurities YOU'RE having.
It takes men less time to become fully aroused,
and men can generally orgasm faster than women.
If it takes you longer to become turned on
(which is perfectly normal),
mention this to your partner.
Tell your partner about the way this makes you feel
(hurried? inadequate? frustrated?).
Let your partner know that
you'd like to keep up with him,
so you can experience simultaneous pleasure.
Wouldn't it be great if we could both cum at the same time?
Remind your partner that most women
need a lot of clitoral contact,
which can be difficult to get in some sexual positions.
Let your partner know that you love what he's doing,
however, you'd like to see what else you can experience.
If you can't climax without a vibrator, be honest with him.
Men want you to have a good time in bed,
and most men understand the importance of the clitoris.
Let him know that you can only have an orgasm
with the intense clitoral stimulation of a vibrator,
and that's just the way your body is.
Tell him you want to experience an orgasm with him.
He'll probably think it's a great idea.
Finally, check out our Couples' Sex Toys page.
We carry a wide variety of sex toys and couples games
that are made specifically to pleasure you and him.
Whether it's the pleasure of him at the controller or a vibe sensation for him too!
Let him in on the shopping experience
and let his imagination be his guide in choosing
that fantasy filling toy.
This way he can help you pick something out
and you can keep the communication open during the entire process.
There is ONE true tip for you
when it comes to introducing sex toys to your partner:
open, honest communication.
As long as you have a loving, respectful relationship with your partner,
you should be successful incorporating sex toys into play
just by open when discussing how you feel.
Happy Toy Hunting ;)
