In last week’s blog, we touched base about some toy box
basics; your first and maybe most important items to always have on hand. This
week, we feel it’s important to keep our readers minds open. With the recent
hype over 50 Shades of Grey, the once timid Soccer Mom is turning into the Sex
Kitten she’s always dreamt of but more and more often, we find men and women
are completely clueless when it comes to anything fetish. So yet again, we’ve
put together a list of basics and just a few techniques to turn anyone into an experienced
Christian Grey…
Blind Fold – Every woman needs a little mystery in her life,
and what better way to heighten your senses than taking one away? By using a
blindfold while playing creates a sensory overload. Every little touch, and
tickle is intensified by the mystery of not knowing what is going to happen
next…
Spice
it Up Tip: Having a feather tickler to tempt and tease your partner’s special
spots while their blindfolded will be sure to leave them craving more! Because
they are unable to see what you are doing, the suspense followed by the
tickling sensation will give them chills all over.
Basic Restraint System – Whether it’s handcuffs, to soft
cuffs, to rope….we all need a little kink in our lives! Restraints are a staple
to any toy box due to the extra sexiness they can bring to any play session.
These restraints can be used so that he can take control, or you can take
control of him too! By giving up some control, or by taking control from your
lover, you are able to explore fantasies you may have only dreamt of!
Spice
it Up Tip: Using restraints and the blindfold together are sure to kink up your
play time! The suspense of not being able to see what is happening coupled with
the inability to control what is happening give that extra thrill of excitement
that will leave you breathless!
Flogger, Crop or Paddle – With so many styles on the market,
it’s hard to choose just one! Start with a flogger that has thicker straps,
this will create more of a ‘thuddy’ feeling and less of sting. It’s always a
good idea to get some practice in before play. Take a firm stance and try
taking a few swings at your pillow. Can you make the tails hit the same place
every time? Once you’re comfortable and have a good rhythm, now you’re ready to
send your partners adrenaline through the roof!
Spice
it Up Tip: Don’t forget your blindfold! Sensory play is a great way to ‘amp’ up
the anticipation, and a great way to bond and create trust between partners.
And just like the light tickle from your feather, the sensation of the flogger becomes
more intense, taking your already pumping adrenaline to the next level!
Nipple Clamps – Nipples are one of the most sensitive parts
of the body. In fact, 1 in 5 women can have an orgasm from nipple stimulation
alone! Along with creating a variable amount of pressure, pain or vibration, nipple
clamps create a great deal of aesthetic appeal. Start with something
adjustable. Successful application
requires the wearer to find a personal balance between the amount of pain and
pleasure by fine tuning the degree of pressure exerted by the clamp
Spice it Up Tip: Bring on the
ice cubes! Try tracing different parts of the body with the ice itself or by
placing the ice in your mouth and kissing the already sensitive parts of the
body. This will also help soothe any pressure and intensify the tingle from the
applied clamps.
With so many
different types of fetishes it’s hard to know where to start. Communication is going
to be the most important aspect of any partnership and finding a comfortable
medium comes from honesty and open-mindedness. But with a little practice and a
few toy box basics, anyone can learn to play like Grey…
