A Naughty Adult 'Operation'...

Do you remember playing Operation

 and trying not to touch the sides to not get zapped, now think of that naked guy laying there now...
what are those spots on him that you want him to get zapped!

Here's some helpful tips to let the zapping begin!

Think of the shaft of his penis as the outer curve of your breast...

 Imagine when he grazes your breast and it sends goosebumps all over and the electricity it sends all over your body,

* Light grazes that you give to his shaft can also be followed by a slight aggressive stroke.

* Teasingly lick the sides of his shaft like a popsicle. Making some eye contact while doing it is quite naughty, the visual alone should get him hot & heavy.

*Lie on top of your guy and place his penis in between your breasts, as you rub up and down when the penis come close to your mouth, give a lick. Breasts + feeling his penis between them = HOT DAMN!

*Your preference here...either take a drop of your favorite flavored lubricant or lick your palms, grip his penis with one hand over the other, and twist in opposite directions creating lots of feel good friction.

Think of his testicles like your nipples...

Your nipples get bigger & darker when you are turned on, so does his testicles. A woman's nipples enlarge because they are engorged with blood when she is aroused. A man's scrotal sac fills with blood and becomes more sensitive.

*As you kiss him, slide your hand down to his testicles and just cradle them, the warmth of your hand is a new sensation.

*Gently pull the skin away from his testicles with your fore finger & thumb. The skin is less sensitive then the testicles themselves, so start out lightly massaging the skin then apply a bit more pressure.

*Rub the flats of your nails, (hopefully you don't have hangnails and/or rough cuticles) not the edges of your nails, against his scrotum. The flat side of your nails are harder, smoother, and cooler than your fingertips.

*Take one testicle at a time in your mouth and gently suck. This is a whole different ball game from the palm of your hand.

*When you're on top of him and feel him getting closer to climax, reach around to his testicles and give a gentle tug. Pulling them away from his body causes the nerve endings to be exposed, thus making his orgasm more intense.

 Think of the base of his penis like your pubic mound...

When a guy takes a break from stroking your clitoris and rubs your pubic mound

(the round fleshy area just above your clitoris) is a treat.

The sensation in that area is caused by blood rushing there when you're turned on, but it's also because it stimulates your clitoral hood(the fold of your skin that surrounds and protects your clitoral glans). The base of his penis connects his shaft to his body, but it doesnt have as many nerve endings as the head of his penis, but because blood in that area is brought there when he's aroused, it's a super-erongenous zone. It can handle both gentle squeezes & rougher ones.
* Make a circle with your index finger & thumb, like an 'ok' sign, and place at the base of his penis while he's inside you. This a sort of cock-ring effect, keeping the blood where you want it and making him last longer.
*Firmly hold the bottom of his shaft in one hand and slowly push it toward the base (imagine you're pushing his penis into his body), then pull it back lightly. Since it's all connected, it'll shoot a tingly sensation from the base to the head of his penis and back.
Now try not to do a hard jerking motion, we don't want to break the guy!
*Make the tip of your tongue into a firm point, and trail it around the base. Since you usually focus on the top three-quarters of his package, he'll be surprised and aroused!
*With a flat, soft tongue, lick all the way around the base of his penis three or four times, and then take your mouth away from his penis. Pause , and repeat. The move will feel awesome, and teh waiting will excite him more.
*Post orgasm, massage the base of his penis lightly-use one fingertip, and move it in small circles. His balls and head and shaft are too sensitive to be touched right after he's climaxed, but he'll love gentle attention here.

Think of the head of his penis like your clitoris...
As you know the clitoris is jammed pack with nerve endings & so is teh tip of his penis, although his glans can take a bit more pressure than your clitoris-the nerves are just spread over a larger area-it's still very sensitive. With that said the areas need to be stimulated carefully. Caress with caution, start out with just the tip and then the entire head. If you spend too much time at the tip & are too rough too soon, he may become over stimulated, and that can be really painful for him. To keep that from happening, switch up your tactics. Don't stick with one for more than 10 seconds or so. Choose a few of these:
* Like it feels erotic when he toches you through your panties, so grope him through his pants or underwear by tracing the sides of his penis with your finger tips.
*Grip his shaft loosely with one hand, then open your mouth, hover right over the head of his penis, and breath slowly and heavily. The sexy heat will literally warm him up and send tingles from his tip to his base.
*Guide his penis into your mouth at an angle, so it hits the inside of your cheek. The skin is smooth and soft there, so it feels awesome against him.
Stay clear of any teeth, you wouldn't want any bites on your clitoris would you...OUCH!
*Cover the head and upper shaft of his penis with your mouth, and suckon the tip like you're slurping a shake through a straw, heavier-than-usual suction.
* When you're straddling him, stop and raise your hips so only his tip is still inside you. Squeeze your vagina like you're doing your Kegel excercises. He'll love the intense pleasure!

Think of his perineum like your G-spot...
It's a small spongy area located 2 inches up the front wall of your vagina that gives you one of those super-deep, way intense orgasms. A guy's perinium, the patch of skin between his anus and testicles, is a very similar producer of body-rocking inner pleasure. The perinium has nerves that run straight to a mans prostate, which is basically the male g-spot. It is packed with nerves that magnify his pleasure and is deep inside his body to touch directly, unless he's given you the green light for that.
* As you're stroking his shaft with one hand, reach down and massage his perinium with the pad of your thumb-roll it from one side to the other, almost like you're giving a fingerprint.
* Dart your tongue in and out like a snake, flicking it quickly against his perinium. Tha fast movements will get him super hyped.
* Use the knuckle of your pointer finger to press against it firmly as you give him oral. It's best to use this move if you're ready for him to finish, since the combo of oral and perinium contact is sure to speed things up.
* Press your lips together like you're about to plant one on him, then place them directly over his perinium and suck. The suction brings more blood to the area, encouraging it and making him shiver.
* When he's in missionary and about to finish, reach down and push the spot-just like you would a button-to make his finale even more explosive!

Have fun this weekend and try a trick or two...or more!

Remember when...

Kissing was such a big experience when we were adolescents and teenagers. A kiss had so much more feeling tied to it, it was something new! 

Hopefully, with a great kisser, you felt an explosion, fireworks, sparks! You felt a lightness and like there was no one else, just the two of you.

This makes one wonder, 'When was your last great make-out session?'

Now as an adult, in a serious relationship, engaged, married, with kids, or none...while leading busy lives, we let the kissing fall to the waist side. We let life come in with all it's responsibilities and forgot the simple intimacy of kissing. Yes, now we don't have to worry about mom & dad walking in, and now it, almost always, leads to sex.

How about making that make out session a little longer with a few new tricks that you may have not tried before.

1. Make sure you have a fresh breath, something as simple as having water or iced tea, in place of a cup of coffee can make a tweak in your breath. There is always mints and chewing gum as well. If your partner isn't so fresh at the moment, have a mint in your mouth and pass it to your partner.

2. Put a Chapstick in your pocket, if you're prone to chapped lips, licking them will only make it worse.

3. First, start with flirting with your partner's lips in light, teasing, licking kisses. Lightly put the tip of your tongue into their mouth, quickly pulling it back out, then slides it in again like you're playing hide-and-seek with your partner in their mouth. Then tease their lips again and lightly suck each one. Then moves the tip of your tongue in circles just inside their lips.

4. Your hands can grace their face, gently graze their arms, the small of their back, let's save the groping til a little bit later, if you can hold out!

5. Now move the kissing else wear, their neck, for men & women, this is a big erogenous zone.
The small area of where the earlobe meets the neck, gently with the tip of your tongue, graze their earlobe, sucking on the earlobe, and continue kissing their neck.

5. If you've held out this long, then explore the rest of their erogenous zones, finger tips, arms, chest, navel and voilà...you're on your way south! The inside of the thighs can be great, if they're not too ticklish.
This can be a perfect segued into performing oral on your partner.

Just in time for Father's Day...

How about for Father's Day, instead of a tie, #1 Dad mug or desk ornament...

you give him an extended male orgasm!

Besides giving him naughty talk and tingling foreplay, here are 5 moves to try out to send him over the edge...

1. Let him enter you, but stop him so that just the tip is in your vagina. Then squeeze your PC muscles(the ones that stop urine midflow) around the head several times before letting the rest of his penis inside.

2. Get in girl-on-top and rub your vulva against his pubic area-the spot just above his penis. That way, his penis is only moving slightly inside you instead of going all the way in and out, so he's getting less of that orgasm-inducing friction. It'll keep him in a pleasurable limbo (and feel great for you too!)

3. When changing positions, such as girl-on-top to doggie-style, move away from him to a new spot on the bed and touch yourself, so he gets a tantalizing show before he can enter you again.

4. As he's getting close, lightly tug his balls down-it can delay his orgasm. If you want to speed him up, cup his balls and push them up toward his penis.

5. Repeatedly press his perineum (the spot between hiss balls and his butt). Hold pressure there with your thumb, or rub it in circles with your fingers. It's like a start/stop button for his climax-touch him there to speed him up, then release to slow him back down.

That should be a nice & naughty surprise, as well as making this Father's Day one to remember!

WILD SEX MOVES

“Most women have incredible untapped sexual potential and embarking on an erotic challenge can help you realise what you're capable of,” explains Dr Gloria Brame, author of Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide To Kinky Sex. “Daring yourself to try new techniques and positions – especially when you're in a long-term relationship where sex can become predictable – keeps things fresh and forces you to expand your repertoire.” The result? A whole new level of intimacy.

FEEL SUPER-SEXY IN YOUR SKIN
Electrify your erogenous zones and boost your naked body confidence by performing a post shower towel tease.

Do-it directions: While the bathroom's steamy, ask your partner to come in. Then begin to dry off, rubbing the towel across your breasts, back and butt, revealing one body part while concealing another. Look in the mirror and keep an eye on his face. Then ask him to rub your skin with baby oil.

Passion payoff: You can ease into being bare in front of him. “Most couples don't take the time to get comfortable with each other naked unless the lights are off,” says Lou Paget, author of The Big O. Here, you can play exhibitionist and explore your sensual side.” And by seeing him watching you in the mirror, you'll be able to see what he does: a woman he can't resist

HAVE SOLO SEX WITH AN AUDIENCE
Show him your masturbation moves first-hand: he'll get to see how you touch yourself and why it turns you on.

Do-it directions: As your boyfriend reaches for your nether region, gently push his hand away and ask if he'd like to watch you do it instead. “Whisper something like, 'Want to see what I do when you're not around?'” suggests Brame. When he nods (and he will!), part your legs slightly, stroke your breasts and belly, then move your hand down your body. As you begin to touch yourself, open your legs wider so he gets a more explicit view. Bonus: place his hand over yours, then pull yours away so you can climax via his moves alone.

Passion payoff: A slam-dunk orgasm, plus a grateful guy who now knows how to push your pleasure buttons. “Men are incredibly visual and crave erotic instruction,” says Brame. Another bedroom benefit: treating him to such an intimate display will bring you closer by opening the lines of carnal communication. Once you grant him a front-row view, he'll be ready to show you how he likes to be manhandled.

GIVE UP CARNAL CONTROL
Putting him in charge of all the dirty details means you can completely surrender to your new-found pleasure.

Do-it directions: Straddle your partner while he's on his back and stretch his arms over his head. Pretend to pin him to the bed, then smile and say, “This is what I'd like you to do to me.” He can hold or tie your wrists, while you lie back and be ravished.

Passion payoff: Giving up control allows you to focus on your own gratification. So while your partner gets to work, you're able to relax and relish the sensations of his every kiss, touch and lick. “With your hands secured, you can't cover up a body part you're shy about and you can't hold back when sensations become overwhelming,” says Brame. “And being 'helpless' allows you to concentrate on how good your body feels, so orgasms are easier to come by.”

TRY THIS SEX-POSITION SPIN
The Swivel is a position for the lovemaker who craves sensual stimulation and doesn't like to stay still in bed.

Do-it directions: Assume the on-top position, facing him as he lies on his back. While squeezing his penis, lift your leg over his body and swivel around, never letting him slip out of you. Squeeze three to five times, keeping close to his base. Then turn again so you're facing his feet. Move in small circles rather than up and down and swivel around until you're back at the start. “Three 360-degree turns is respectable,” says Tracey Cox, author of Supersex. “Five is Olympian!”

Passion payoff: The corkscrew-like motion will bring him to the brink. Then, give him time to catch his breath while you pause to rotate again. It'll also gaunt him a revolving view of your body. “Plus, when you're on top, his penis rubs the sensitive front wall of your vagina, grazing your G-spot for an extra-intense orgasm,” says Cox.

MAGNIFY YOUR TOUCH
Ever notice when one of your senses is blocked, the others get stronger? The same thing happens during sex.

Do-it directions: Lead your partner into the bedroom. Take off your clothes, then blindfold each other – covering your ears too – and agree to be silent for an erotic encounter. “Communicate with gestures – the pressure of a hand, arch of a back, or stiffening of a nipple,” advises Cox.

Passion payoff: Removing sight and sound magnifies the experience, says Cox. “With just touch to guide you, you're forced to use your hands and mouth all over your bodies, awakening erogenous zones you may not have been aware of,” she adds. Since you can't see each other, you're compelled to find new ways to wow your partner. Perhaps, some of those moves will even become staples of your pleasure list.

MAKE A FANTASY A HOT REALITY
Don't restrict naughty thoughts to your mind. Let 'em loose in the bedroom.

Do-it directions: Write out a searing scenario, something you've had daydreams about, but have never acted on. Then, while on the couch, or in bed, make your move. “Ask him suggestively, 'Want to hear my story?'” suggests Paget. Get him to test-drive your script by stroking his ego. “Tell him you've been thinking about it and want to share it with him,” she adds.

Passion payoff: Whether you want to be spanked, or pretend you're having a one-night stand, turning your daydream into reality adds excitement. “It heightens your sense of experimentation,” explains Paget. Revealing your sexual wish list opens up erotic discourse and can free you from your inhibitions. Even better, it may prompt your boyfriend to divulge his own desires.

TAKE EACH OTHER OVER THE EDGE
Double erotic enjoyment by turning 69 on it's side. This intimate style is easy for both of you to do at the same time.

Do-it directions: Lie on your sides, facing each other in opposite directions – your head near his crotch. Bend your top leg, resting your foot on your opposite knees. Have him do the same so your thighs are both open in a triangle. Now lean in and bring your mouths to each other's bodies.

Passion payoff: No other position offers such oral and visual satisfaction while placing little strain on your back and neck, says Cox. “You can please each other simultaneously, or one at a time – you don't have to change positions and ruin the mood,” she adds. If you want to take a break, just pull back and rest your head on his leg. This way, your bodies are still close.

SUPER-SIZE YOUR ORGASM
Up multiple-orgasm potential by going for at least on big O during foreplay, then another (and another, even another) during the full-on lovemaking.

Do-it directions: “Put his climax on hold and get him to switch the ways he plays with you – like gliding his fingertip along your inner leg or massaging you in circles with his tongue,” advises Cox. Once you've had your first orgasm, move onto doggy style or woman on top. Both allow him to touch your hot spot while providing deep G-spot stimulation. If he's racing towards the finish line before you're ready, gently tug on his testicles to slow him down.

Passion payoff: A chain reaction of orgasms for you and a slower, yet explosive peak for him. Tip: the more you practise teaching your body to climax, the easier it'll get and the more you'll crave sex, says Cox. Plus, watching you hit ecstatic heights is his ultimate turn-on.

Aphrodisiac Foods

Aphrodisiacs were first sought out as a remedy for various sexual anxieties including fears of inadequate performance as well as a need to increase fertility.

Aphrodisiacs were first sought out as a remedy for various sexual anxieties including fears of inadequate performance as well as a need to increase fertility.  Procreation was an important moral and religious issue and aphrodisiacs were sought to insure both male and female potency.  

Why Certain Foods?

In ancient times a distinction was made between a substance that increased fertility versus one that simply increased sex drive.  One of the key issues in early times was nutrition. Food was not so readily available as it is today. Undernourishment creates a loss of libido as well as reduces fertility rates.   Substances that "by nature" represent "seed or semen" such as bulbs, eggs, snails" were considered inherently to have sexual powers. Other types of foods were considered stimulating by their "physical resemblance to genitalia"

It's important to realize these food substances were identified (documented) by the likes of Pliny and Dioscordes (ancient Greeks) first century AD and later by Paul of Aegina from the seventh century.  Later more credence was given to foods that "satisfied dietary gratification". 

Other foods deemed to have these aphrodisiac qualities were derived from mythology.   Aphrodite, the love goddess was said to consider "sparrows" sacred because of their "amorous nature" and for that reason were included in various aphrodisiac brews. 

There was not always agreement upon what foods were actually aphrodisiacs or "anaphrodisiacs" (decrease potency).   But the ancient list included Anise, basil, carrot, salvia, gladiolus root, orchid bulbs, pistachio nuts, rocket (arugula), sage, sea fennel, turnips, skink flesh (a type of lizard) and river snails.

The ancients suggested you steer clear of dill, lentil, lettuce, watercress, rue, and water lily.

Aphrodisiac Foods List

• Almond

A symbol of fertility throughout the ages. The aroma is thought to induce passion in a female. Try serving Marzipan (almond paste) in the shapes of fruits for a special after-dinner treat.

• Aniseed

A very popular aphrodisiac with many culinary uses. It has been used as an aphrodisiac since the Greeks and the Romans, who believed aniseed had special powers. Sucking on the seeds is said to increases your desire.

• Arugula

Arugula or "rocket" seed has been documented as an aphrodisiac since the first century A.D.  This ingredient was added to grated orchid bulbs and parsnips and also combined with pine nuts and pistachios. Arugula greens are frequently used in salads and pasta.

• Asafetida

Any Indian dried, powedered herb used as a sexual stimulant in Ayurvedic medicine.  The herb has a very strong, garlicy flavor.

• Asparagus

Given it's phallic shape, asparagus is frequently enjoyed as an aphrodisiac food.   Feed your lover boiled or steamed spears for a sensuous experience. The Vegetarian Society suggests "eating asparagus for three days for the most powerful affect".

• Avocado

The Aztecs called the avocado tree "Ahuacuatl which translated means "testicle tree". The ancients thought the fruit hanging in pairs on the tree resembled the male's testicles. This is a delicious fruit with a sensuous texture. Serve in slices with a small amount of Balsamic vinegar and freshly ground pepper.

• Bananas

The banana flower has a marvelous phallic shape and is partially responsible for popularity of the banana as an aphrodisiac food. An Islamic myth tells the tale that after Adam and Eve succumbed to the "Apple" they started covering their "nudity" with banana leaves rather than fig. From a more practical standpoint bananas are rich in potassium and B vitamins, necessities for sex hormone production.

• Basil (sweet basil)

Is said to stimulate the sex drive and boost fertility. It is also said to produce a general sense of well being for body and mind.

• Broccoli Rabe (And Other Mustard Greens)

The ground seeds of various plants in the brassica family were believed to increase virility. In the case of broccoli rabe its more likely a myth created to get people to eat this bitter vegetable.

• Chocolate

The Aztecs referred to chocolate "nourishment of the Gods". Chocolate contains chemicals thought to effect neurotransmitters in the brain and a related substance to caffeine called theobromine. Chocolate contains more antioxidant (cancer preventing enzymes) than does red wine.  The secret for passion is to combine the two.  Try a glass of Cabernet with a bit of dark chocolate for a sensuous treat or let us temp you with our recipe for Chocolate Espresso Pots de creme.

• Carrots

Another good reason to eat carrots--believed to be a stimulant to the male. The phallus shaped carrot has been associated with stimulation since ancient times and was used by early Middle Eastern royalty to aid seduction. High vitamins and beta-carotene. Perhaps a justification for a piece of carrot cake?

• Coffee

Caffeine is a well-know stimulant but remember, too much and it becomes a depressant.   Serve small amounts of rich dark coffee in special little demitasse cups.   Coffee stimulates both the body and the mind so partake of a little in preparation for an "all-nighter".

• Coriander (Cilantro seed)

The book of The Arabian nights tells a tale of a merchant who had been childless for 40 years and but was cured by a concoction that included coriander. That book is over 1000 years old so the history of coriander as an aphrodisiac dates back far into history. Cilantro was also know to be used as an "appetite" stimulant.

• Fennel

In the 1930's fennel was found to be a source of natural plant estrogens. Use of fennel as an aphrodisiac dates back to the Egyptian times where it was used as "libido enhancement".

• Figs

An open fig is thought to emulate the female sex organs and traditionally thought of as sexual stimulant. A man breaking open a fig and eating it in front of his lover is a powerful erotic act. Serve fresh Black Mission figs in a cool bowl of water as it is done in Italy and be sure to eat with your fingers!

• Garlic

The 'heat' in garlic is said to stir sexual desires. Make sure you and your partner share it together. Garlic has been used for centuries to cure everything from the common cold to heart ailments. This is a good time for moderation. Enjoy a pasta with a lightly garlicky sauce and it and lead up to something spicy in the bedroom later.

• Ginger

Ginger root raw, cooked or crystallized is a stimulant to the circulatory system. Perhaps a stir-fry with freshly grated ginger can stir something spicy up in the bedroom later.

• Honey

Many medicines in Egyptian times were based on honey including cures for sterility and impotence. Medieval seducers plied their partners with Mead, a fermented drink made from honey. Lovers on their "Honeymoon" drank mead and it was thought to "sweeten" the marriage.

• Liquorice (licorice)

The Chinese have used licorice for medicinal purposes since ancient times. The essence of the Glycyrrhiza glabra (licorice) plan, glycrrhizin, is 50 time sweeter than sugar. Chewing on bits of licorice root is said to enhance love and lust. It is particularly stimulating to woman.

• Mustard

Believed to stimulate the sexual glands and increase desire. Prepare a tenderloin roast (filet mignon) for two with a mustard and peppercorn sauce.

• Nutmeg

Nutmeg was highly prized by Chinese women as an aphrodisiac. In quantity nutmeg can produce a hallucinogenic effect. A light sprinkling of the spice in a warm pumpkin soup can help spice up your evening.

• Oysters

Oysters were documented as a aphrodisiac food by the Romans in the second century A.D as mentioned in a satire by Juvenal. He described the wanton ways of women after ingesting wine and eating "giant oysters". An additional hypotheses is that the oyster resembles the "female" genitals. In reality oysters are a very nutritious and high in protein.

• Pine Nuts

Zinc is a key mineral necessary to maintain male potency and pine nuts are rich in zinc. Pine nuts have been used to stimulate the libido as far back as Medieval times. Serve pine nut cookies with a dark espresso for a stimulating dessert.

• Pineapple

Rich in vitamin C and and is used in the homeopathic treatment for impotence. Add a spear to a sweet Rum drink for a tasty prelude to an evening of passion.

• Raspberries and Strawberries

Perfect foods for hand feeding your lover. "Both invite love and are described in erotic literature as fruit nipples" Both are high in vitamin C and make a sweet light dessert.

• Truffles

The Greeks and the Romans considered the rare Truffle to be an aphrodisiac. The musky scent is said to stimulate and sensitize the skin to touch.

• Vanilla

The scent and flavor of vanilla is believed to increase lust. According to the Australian Orchid Society, "Old Totonac lore has it that Xanat, the young daughter of the Mexican fertility goddess, loved a Totonac youth. Unable to marry him due to her divine nature, she transformed herself into a plant that would provide pleasure and happiness." Fill tall Champagne glasses to the rim and add a vanilla bean for a heady, bubbly treat.

• Wine

A glass or two of wine can greatly enhance a romantic interlude. Wine relaxes and helps to stimulate our senses. Drinking wine can be an erotic experience. Let your eyes feast on the color of the liquid. Caress the glass, savor the taste on your lips. Do remember that excessive alcohol will make you too drowsy for the after-dinner romance. A moderate amount of wine has been said to "arouse" but much more than that amount with have the reverse affect.

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7 Things You Don't Know About Solo Sex

Think you know everything about, ahem, dialing "O" on the pink telephone? Check out this surprising info...

It does your body good...
Paddling the pink canoe (or whatever you want to call it) not only feels ah-mazing, but it also has a ton of research-proven health benefits. That's because it releases feel-good endorphins, which do everything from ease stress to relieve menstrual cramps. One recent study published in Sleep Medicine even found that masturbation can treat restless leg syndrome (a neurological disorder that causes your legs to jerk around in bed). Uh, we'd love to see the doctor's prescription form for that.

...but not if you do it this way.
A University of Michigan study found that women who masturbate with saliva (i.e., wetting your fingers before you give yourself a hand) have a higher risk of developing frequent yeast infections. Researchers think it's because the saliva may disrupt the balance of bacteria down there. If you want to lube up before you get on with your horny self, choose the bottled kind instead.

We're still keeping it on the DL.
Apparently we can't let go and allow our self-love flag to fly. According to research from Penn State University, women talk more about sex than men do...except when it comes to masturbation. Men are more likely to trade info among themselves on how they do it and what they think about (or watch). We're not saying you need to start updating your Facebook status every time you give yourself an O, but occasionally discussing it with a few close gf's can help you figure out new ways to experience even hotter pleasure.

Lady monkeys need self-loving too.
Scientists have observed a wide variety of animals masturbating in the wild, including deer, monkeys, walruses, and squirrels. In fact, female apes and monkeys have been known to use sticks for, ahem, added pleasure down there.

That old wive's tale about masturbation causing acne? It's kinda true.
That's because when you climax, your body experiences a spike in the hormone testosterone, which can cause zits. The increase in testosterone is (very) small, though, so it's unlikely that you'll have a breakout.

It's possible to think your way to a party for one.
Researchers at Rutgers University have documented women who can climax without touching themselves. In a study, these women "thought" their way to climax while inside an MRI machine; scans revealed that their brains lit up during orgasm in the exact same spots as did women who peaked the old-fashioned way.

And, uh, exercise your way there too.
Some women can hit the high note just by doing crunches that include a leg raise — it causes the pelvic muscles to tighten and release, which can unleash a wave of blissful contractions down there.

3 Tips to Ensure a Hot Date Night with Your Husband

Half the battle of having a hot date night is actually having a date night at all. Here's how to make it happen.

1. Snag a sitter — fast. Mom's busy, your standby teenage neighbor has a new boyfriend — now what? Go to sittercity.com or seekingsitters.com. Both sites post reviews from other parents and list babysitters who have CPR training. Or call your local YMCA to ask about nighttime programs for school-age children.>

2. Have "dessert" first. If you tend to conk out after dinner, have sex before your date, suggests Scott Haltzman, M.D., author of The Secrets of Happily Married Women. Ask the sitter to arrive early so you can "get ready." "It'll relieve the will-we-do-it tension," he says. "And men feel more connected and talkative after sex." Women too!

3. Cure we-can't-afford-it syndrome. Skip the pricey dinner and do coffee and dessert instead, suggests Lindsey Rietzsch, author of How to Date Your Spouse. More ways to find good, cheap fun: Check out groupon.com or livingsocial.com for deals on restaurants, couples massages, even dance classes.
 

How to Have a 15-Minute Female Orgasm

Step 1:
First, get undressed and lie on your back using a pillow for neck support. Your legs should be bent and spread, feet together in butterfly position. If this makes your hips uncomfortable on one or both sides, just put pillows underneath the knees.


Your guy should sit to your right side on top of at least two pillows and straddle his bent left leg perpendicularly across her torso, foot flat on the opposite side. (It almost looks as if he's on top in reverse cowgirl position, except his weight will be to the side of your torso.)

Step 2:
Have him separate your labia and retract the clitoral hood upward with the heel of the palm. Then he'll anchor the clitoris with the right thumb by holding the hood back. He should put his left hand under your butt, two fingers under each cheek, with the thumb resting on (not in) the base of the entrance to the vagina.

Step 3:
The guy should imagine he's looking directly at the clitoris from between her legs, with the top of the clitoris as 12 o’clock on a clock face. He'll then find 1 p.m.—ideally a small indentation or pocket between the hood and clitoris—with his right hand’s index finger, and begin stroking using the lightest touch possible and only 1/16" or so of movement. The tip of the finger is better than the pad, so make sure he cuts his nails beforehand.

Step 4:
Once he finds it, you probably won’t be able to take more than a very light touch. So ask him to stroke like a metronome at a constant speed for periods of two to three minutes, changing speed between periods. Have him keep this up for 15 minutes. You'll most likely start to feel intense pleasure. If the orgasm contractions are a bit too much, breathe deeply and push out slightly as if you were going to pee. (Don't worry, as long as you emptied your bladder beforehand, you won't actually pee.) This will help you extend the plateau and minimize fatigue.

Step 5:
Once the 15 minutes have elapsed, he should do something called “grounding”, which just means applying strong pressure down on the pubic bone and up toward your head, using overlapping hands. (It sort of looks like he's doing chest compressions, only on your nether regions.) Usually the strongest possible pressure the most pleasurable for ending a session.

We know, it sounds too simple to bring on a 15-minute climax. But the author himself tested it out and spoke with a number of sexperts to perfect the process. Give it a try then report back in the comments section.

7 Things You Didn't Know About Porn

As skin flicks grow increasingly ubiquitous, thanks to the ease of steamy streaming on the internet, X-rated entertainment has also become a hot research topic. Check out the shocking facts these studies uncovered.

1. Women get turned on by monkey sex
Think guys are aroused by just about anything? It's actually the other way around. Researchers from Northwestern University showed men and women videos of nude actors exercising, masturbating, or having sex. They found that men have pretty clear "targets" — straight dudes got hot looking at ladies, while gay dudes were turned on by men. It's fuzzier for chicks, though. Even if they didn't report feeling in the mood, straight women experienced physical arousal after viewing pretty much any kind of sexual stimuli — guy-on-guy porn, girl-on-girl action, and even bonobo monkeys getting frisky.
2. Utah is the perviest state
A Harvard study found that Utah had the most online porn subscriptions per every 1,000 broadband users. (The state with the lowest rate of porn subscriptions? Montana.)
3. The body part that men focus on when watching porn is the woman's — wait for it — face
You read that right: eyes and lips win out over boobs and a badonkadonk, according to an eye-tracking study from the Kinsey Institute at the University of Indiana. The researchers speculated that guys look at women's faces to gauge how turned on they are.
4. The pill affects whether you go for the money shot
More from the Kinsey Institute study: Women not on hormonal birth control (like The Pill) zoned in on people's genitals when shown a pornographic pic. But women taking The Pill were more interested in contextual elements such as the background, or what the actors are wearing. Researchers hypothesize it's because Pill-free women have a higher sex drive.
5. All — literally all — men watch it
A researcher from the University of Montreal wanted to study whether pornography has an impact on guys' sex lives. There was just one teensy problem though: To form a control group, he searched for men in their twenties who'd never consumed porn...and he couldn't find a single one.
6. Most guys get into it before puberty
The majority check out porn for the first time at age 10, according to the same University of Montreal study.
7. Presidential elections put people in the mood
Talk about dirty politics. After President Bush won the election in 2004, red states saw a jump in porn-related Internet searches. And after President Obama won in 2008, blue states went on a porn-search frenzy. Researchers from Villanova and Rutgers University believe it's because being on the winning team creates a surge of testosterone, which spikes sex drive.