Oh, Oh, Oooooh...

Most ladies have experienced the point of no return...

the clitoral orgasm! What a feeling?!?

The tingle, the warmth of your flushed body, 

and the waves of sensations going all over you.

*sigh*

What happens when getting there is not as easy as you remember?

Maybe you're in the need of something MORE?

Unfortunately, women are complicated, 

and we're all so different! 

We need the right physical, 

emotional and psychological factors 

to get turned on. 

A few years ago, there were only a couple of female enhancement gel choices. 

Now, there are a great many to choose from. 

This is great news for women who have trouble getting aroused or climaxing. 

How do you pick the right one for you? 

Well EVERY woman is different, 

and your favorite may be still out there 

but these 3 are our favorites. 

First up, is Shunga's Secret Garden.

Shunga Secret Garden is a female orgasm enhancing gel, 

and contains natural proteins such as 

*L-Arginine

(L-Arginine HCL, responsible for fast, effective absorption 

of key herbal ingredients into the female lymphatic system.)

and *L-Ornithine, 

which are both well known to increase the circulation of blood. 

And when applied in sensitive places like the clitoris, 

it can have quite a stimulating effect. 

In addition to application to the clitoris, 

the Shunga Secret Garden Gel

can be used around the labia for additional stimulation. 

However, a point worth remembering, and as mentioned in the application instructions, 

the gel may need several uses before it becomes noticeable. 

The sensation of the gel makes you very aware of its presence, 

which is a great thing. 

It isn't anything overpowering, 

but the sensations of the gel are definitely there 

and it does work well at enhancing the sensitivity of the clitoris. 

The gel has a nice fragrant peppermint oil added to it, 

and because of the peppermint it also has a nice soothing or cooling effect 

when applied to your clitoris. 

This can be especially useful when you’re all hot 

down there from getting a good workout! 

The sensation of the gel will begin to wear off after about twenty minutes, 

but all you need to do is re-apply a small amount to get the feeling back. 

For more intensity, you simply add a little more than previously on your fingertip. 

I also thought it was useful that the gel manufacturers 

give you instructions on what to do if you find it all a little to intense on your clitoris.

Overall, Shunga Secret Garden is a great 

clitoral arousal gel that does its job rather well. 

It can be used on your own for private sensual pleasuring session, 

or it can be used with your partner to reach new orgasmic heights. 

You will find it great as a warm up and foreplay tool, 

and particularly, you will LOVE it when your partner 

delicately strokes it on and massages it 

on or around your clitoris before sex. 

Second up is a huge favorite,

Swiss Navy 2 in 1 Just for Her.

Swiss Navy 2-in-1 Just for Her Stimulating Gels 

(featuring the Mild to Wild effect) 

which has ingredients such as 

*Menthol, *l-citrulline and *Methylparaben

Menthol is concentrated mint extract such as peppermint.

L-citrulline is a naturally occurring amino acid. 

It is found in some foods like watermelons 

and is also produced naturally by the body.

Our bodies change L-citrulline into another amino acid called 

L-arginine (yep that was in Shunga's gel!).

L-citrulline might help increase the supply of ingredients

the body needs to making certain proteins. 

It might also help open up veins and arteries 

to improve blood flow and reduce blood pressure.

Methylparaben is an anti-irritant agent and water-soluble anti-microbial 

and is often used for rejuvenation purposes.

Other ingredients in the Mild to Wild are the same fillers 

in makeup to make up the gel consistency.

The strength in Mild is not overwhelming on it's own at all

and the Wild is more intense and has a higher 

concentration of its ingredients. 

The Mild to Wild is a definite cooling affect on the clitoris.

The 2-in-1 dispenser allows a woman to

start with the Mild side and mix in 

as much Wild side as desired, 

to create her own personalized

blend for the ultimate pleasure experience. 

This is a great pick for the women

that wants a different feel.

What's wrong with changing your mind!

Some days, you may be sensitive already
and may not need as much.

You may feel feisty other days
and may want to feel close to explosion!

This is apply as needed and a
play around and experiment kinda product.

Last, but certainly not least, is 

Wet's BRAND NEW wOw Gentle O and Max O

The water+silicone based, 

blend provides a pleasurable and arousing, 

tingling sensation that will stimulate your most 

sensitive spot and heighten sexual pleasure. 

The ingredients that cause the cooling are 

*menta piperita, *methyl nicotinate, 

and *vanillyl butyl ether. 

Both Gentle and Max contain *glycerin as the main ingredient, 

which is found in many lubricants.

If you have really big reactions to glycerin, 

we would suggest not using this. 

However, you use only a very small amount of it 

and it’s easy to keep it only on your clitoris to minimize any issues. 

It also has several types of silicone in it, 

but won't have any problems with it reacting to any silicone toys. 

Aside from that though, it is paraben free and latex friendly, 

so you should have no trouble using this with condoms. 

The gel itself is completely clear and fairly thick.

It suggested to use a pea size amount

and when squeezing it out, it stays in play easily.

We really like this because it’s easy to squeeze it out on a finger tip

and get it where you want it, without it dripping or running.

 This to be a bit different than other clitoral arousal gels.
Most gels get cool right away and start to tingle.
 This gel, however, does nothing for a few seconds
and then gets warm and slightly tingly.
 Once applied,we found the feeling lasts about 15 minutes or so,
if you do nothing to it.
  Depending on how much you apply,
it will be more or less intense.
We find it to be one of the stronger arousal gels that we have tried,
so if you do not have much experience,
you may want to try little dabs
at first to see how much will work for you.

Additional intimate stimulation, 
like touching or rubbing, 

will greatly enhance the effectiveness of 
Wet wOw Clitoral Arousal Gels and the more you use it, 

the more you may experience progressively enhanced pleasure.

Any of these female enhancement gels, 

applied to the clitoris and labia, 

Combined with stimulation, 

will definitely cause a sensation. 

Try a gel with a vibrator, during oral sex 

(*with the majority of clitoral gels out there 

having a type of mint extract, 

there may be a numbing feel to your 

partners tongue so approach with caution)

or penetrative sex to get the most out of it.

*None of these products are not intended to treat, mitigate, 

cure or prevent any female sexual arousal disorder or 

have any therapeutic effect on any structure or function of the body. 

Seek the advice of a physician if you suffer from any disease 

or medical condition that may affect sexual responsiveness.*

How to Bring a 'Bunny' in the Bedroom

Want to introduce your boyfriend or husband to your vibrator? 

If you don't know how he will react to a sex toy, 

or if you fear a bad response, 

follow these tips to put his mind at ease 

and start having a lot more fun in the bedroom.

Start out with simple communication. 

Communication is KEY!

How does he feel about sex toys? 

Does he feel like they would be an interesting addition to playtime? 

Or does he feel threatened?

Does he think he'll be replaced by a sex toys? 

Reassure him that vibrators are an enhancement to sex, 

just like lit candles or music. 

Let him know that many vibrators are 

made to stimulate both of you. 

Reassure him that experimenting with sex toys 

can be a fun adventure for the both of you 

to embark on together.

Assure him that he's good enough. 

He might be scared that he's not doing things right, 

and become insecure. 

Let him know that just because you want to 

add a new element to sex, 

doesn't mean you want to replace the him. 

Let him know that you want sex 

to remain an adventure for both of you, 

and that sex toys can keep things fresh, 

and adding something a little extra, 

can be fun!

Let him know about any insecurities YOU'RE having. 

It takes men less time to become fully aroused, 

and men can generally orgasm faster than women. 

If it takes you longer to become turned on 

(which is perfectly normal), 

mention this to your partner. 

Tell your partner about the way this makes you feel

(hurried? inadequate? frustrated?). 

Let your partner know that 

you'd like to keep up with him, 

so you can experience simultaneous pleasure. 

Wouldn't it be great if we could both cum at the same time?

Remind your partner that most women 

need a lot of clitoral contact, 

which can be difficult to get in some sexual positions. 

Let your partner know that you love what he's doing, 

however, you'd like to see what else you can experience.

If you can't climax without a vibrator, be honest with him. 

Men want you to have a good time in bed, 

and most men understand the importance of the clitoris. 

Let him know that you can only have an orgasm 

with the intense clitoral stimulation of a vibrator, 

and that's just the way your body is. 

Tell him you want to experience an orgasm with him. 

He'll probably think it's a great idea.

Finally, check out our Couples' Sex Toys page. 

We carry a wide variety of sex toys and couples games 

that are made specifically to pleasure you and him. 

Whether it's the pleasure of him at the controller or a vibe sensation for him too!

Let him in on the shopping experience 

and let his imagination be his guide in choosing 

that fantasy filling toy.

This way he can help you pick something out

and you can keep the communication open during the entire process. 

There is ONE true tip for you 

when it comes to introducing sex toys to your partner: 

open, honest communication. 

As long as you have a loving, respectful relationship with your partner, 

you should be successful incorporating sex toys into play 

just by open when discussing how you feel.

Happy Toy Hunting ;) 

Put your Petal to the Metal!

A lot of people have metal in them already, 

a brace in one's leg, a hip,
maybe even a metal plate in the head! 

Now let's talk about the metal that gives 

you oh so much PLEASURE!

Metal toys may seem a bit too scary, 

but these are the same people that were scared about glass! 

Now if you LOVE glass toys, then why not metal?!?

Now let's remind you that you've come this far 

to have an open mind, 

let's keep you going in that right direction!

Metal still has all the benefits of glass.

It's non-porous,
ANY kind of lubricant can be used on them,
whether it's a thick & silky silicone based lubricant
or a thin & slippery water based lubricant.
One of the great things about
both glass and metal
 that differed from any other toy,
temperature adjustable!

Want a warm to mildly hot toy?
Slip it in a large microwavable bowl,
drench a smaller size towel in water,
wrap the towel around your favorite glass or metal toy,
place it in the bowl
and microwave to your desired temperature.
This should take no longer than 1 min,
depending on your microwaves capability.
Place your wrist over the hot towel,
if it feels too hot, let it stand and
cool down a little while.

Want a nicely chilled toy on those HOT summer nights?
Place in the fridge in some camoflage
(this varies with one's privacy i.e. kids,
parents, in-laws from out of town, roommates).
No access to a fridge?
Place in a container with water and ice.

Metal is great for people with allergies and 

who are very self aware of what they put inside themselves.

Cleaning these toys is a piece of cake!
Hot water and mild soap is all it takes.
Want it REALLY clean?
Invest in some great toy cleaner!

There is one HUGE difference between
glass and metal that makes metal stand on it's own.
Metal CAN NOT break!
Unlike glass,
these babies aren't going away
with a slight wack on one's night stand table.

These metal beauties can be used for anal,
vaginal, G-Spot, Prostate massage,
kegel excercises...
what ever you want...
and all of these can be done
with the same ONE metal toy.
No worries about bacteria growing,
not on metal.


So how about you embrace it like our
favorite fictional character
Anastasia Steele.

"My mouth is already open from panting.
I open wider, and he slides a large cool
metal object between my lips.
Shaped like an oversized baby's pacifier,
it has small grooves or carvings..."I'm going to put this inside you..."

Happy Friday!
;)

Oh those wondrous Balls...

Now, whether you have heard of the famous Ben Wa Balls from the latest book 

or you're just looking into improving your sexual health,

(Good for YOU, by the way!) 

there is no doubt that THE Ben Wa Balls,

are not new to the scene!

History of Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa Balls are known to have been used as far back as 500 A.D. all over Asia. 

The balls were made of metal or ivory,

and were at first inserted into the female 

in order to increase pleasure for the male during intercourse. 

It didn't take Asian women long to figure out that the 

Ben Wa Balls could be used in order to induce an orgasm with the art of teasing.

Women in ancient Asia, from Thailand to China to Japan, 

used the subtle clanking vibrations to achieve the big O or for foreplay. 

The balls were soon attached by a silk thread or chain 

so that removal from the vagina became easier.

One of the first "western" encounters of Ben Wa Balls was made by 

Ralph Fitch, a famous English traveler, who was one of the firsts to explore 

Mesopotamia and India. 

About 12 years after Ralph Fitch encountered Ben Wa Balls, 

in the 16th Century, an Italian exploring Thailand 

discovered men using Ben Wa Balls to lengthen their penis'.

Do we suggest Ben Wa Balls for this use? 

Absolutely not, it sounds excruciatingly painful!

But there you have it,

Ben Wa Balls have an incredible history, 

and are possibly, not only the world´s first vibrator, 

but also the first organ enlarger!

What Exactly Are Ben Wa Balls?

Ben Wa Balls are small metal, glass or plastic balls that are hollow on the inside. 

An even smaller ball is often times placed inside, 

the rolling of the interior ball creates a small continuous vibration. 

The subtle continuous vibration has been known to bring on an orgasm. 

Some women will feel nothing at all. 

This is totally dependent on the sensitivity of an individuals Vagina. 

What Are Kegel Exercises?

Kegel Exercises strengthen the P.C. muscle a.k.a. 

the pubococcygeus muscles which helps prevent unwanted urination. 

As many of you know, as you grow older, you may have a tendency to leak urine 

whenever you laugh, sneeze, and/or cough too loudly. 

This is true for not only women, but also men. 

Doing Kegel Exercises helps strengthen the pelvic floor, 

meanwhile, producing a tigher vagina, and 

ultimately, stopping unwanted urination. 

If you don´t know where your P.C. muscle is, 

it´s the one muscle between your Pelvic bone and your tail bone. 

By strengthening your pelvic floor, both men and women are able to enjoy better intimacy.

How to Use Ben Wa Balls?

1. Use the restroom before placing the balls in the vagina.

2. With clean hands, Insert one ball at a time. 

Putting lubrication on the balls will help them glide in. 

(Women have said that inserting the balls is similar to inserting a tampon.)

If you’re not used to inserting tampons or if you’re having trouble,
you should lift one leg up. 

If that doesn’t work, try inserting them while lying down
with your legs spread open as far as you can.

3. Once they are in, Squeeze your leg muscles together
and then your PC muscles together to hold the balls in. 

The balls should push down a little bit inside your vagina,
and they will make your vagina feel “full”. 

Much like tampons, you should eventually get used to the feeling.

4. Hold the balls inside for at least 15 - 20 minutes a day
to strengthen your PC muscles.
Work your way up to a time you feel comfortable.

It isn´t unusual to hold them for hours for a better workout.

5. If any balls slip out, wash them well with a very mild soap and water,

or a proper Toy Cleaner, and slip them back in.

6. There are several ways to remove the balls including:
jump up and down, sneeze, cough,
sit and bear down as if you’re having a bowel movement,
or inserting lubricant to help them slide out, etc.

If you think you might have a hard time removing the balls, 

then you may want to purchase Ben Wa Balls that are strung onto a retrieval cord. 

Which are PERFECT for beginners!

In any case, it is NOT possible for the

Ben Wa Balls to disappear inside the body, from the vagina.

Keep in mind, when choosing your Ben Wa Balls,
that if the Ben Wa Balls are too heavy and small,

you may want to go to a larger size or even to plastic balls. 

The larger the Ben Wa Balls are,

the easier it is to hold them inside your Vagina. 

Conversely, the smaller the Ben Wa Balls are,

the harder it will be to hold them.

Smaller Ben Wa Balls are most highly recommended

for an experienced user only.

*A word of caution, many people forget about them long enough 

to make a run to the dry cleaners, grocery store or run other errands. 

You don't want the Ben Wa Balls to fall out during this time,
as that would be rather embarrassing! 

So don´t forget to take them out if you´re going for a run, 

going to the store, or going to do other errands.*

Overall Maintenance for Ben Wa Balls

Ben Wa Balls are easy to clean and because of they are generally smooth, 

hard surface, they can be cleaned with soap and water. 

However, some Ben Wa Balls have strings, some are not seamless,
some are textured or have other objects protruding from them.

In this case, it is strongly recommended that you use a  toy cleaner. 

These toy cleaners cost anywhere from $10-$16 and can be used to clean toys for a few months. 

Ben Wa Balls, compared to other toys,
are easy to maintain, clean, and use.

Overview of the Benefits of Ben Wa Balls 

Ben Wa Balls, Ben Wah Balls, Wa Bah Balls,
Wah Ba Balls, Burmese bells, Benoît balls,  

Duotone balls, Orgasm balls, Venus balls,
Geisha balls, Smart Balls... 

We have heard  many different names, but one thing is for sure,

they´re nothing short of miraculous!

For pleasure for yourself or both you and your partner. 

For a strong pelvic floor and better health as you grow older. 

For the simple joy of attempting something adventurous,
Ben Wa Balls are here, 

they´re here to stay,
so give them a try.

50 Shades of Kink...

With all the hype of the infamous book

that has made BDSM practically bust into the mainstream,

making even suburban/city mommys enticed by the BDSM scene or

having them thinking of adding a little something more in the bedroom.

How about we go over a little

BDSM (Bondage, Discipline/Dominance, Submission/Sadism, Masochism) 101.

 First, what is BDSM all about?

BDSM is not a slavery aspect...it's a self conscious choice and a consensual agreement between adults.

BDSM plays with your other senses and is not solely devoted to sex.

It plays with you spiritually, mentally, physically and exploring all sorts of new sensations.

It allows you to explore your fantasies and go beyond role playing.

To solely get your BDSM 'Tips' & 'Education' from porno movies, is a bad idea...

Pornos with BDSM is made for 'Entertainment'.

A BDSM relationship is more than that,
it's an allowance to have someone win your trust and vice versa.

So, you want to simply dip your toe in the pond of BDSM... 

A great starter for beginners to such activities...

a blindfold...

having a blindfold on, makes the simplest touch have a completely different feeling.

Not knowing what's coming or where, makes your nerve endings have a shock of feelings.

Adding a restraint...

whether you choose handcuffs...

Bondage tape...

or

Rope.

Allowing yourself to be restrained is a way of showing your partner,

that you trust,

that you give up the will to move,

and are allowing your partner to have their way with you.

Perhaps a bit of  role playing,

for someone being bad...

and maybe needing a spanking.

Whether you choose to use your hand or with a softer rope whip, for instance a

Silk Rope Whip

This a an ideal starter for it's softer appeal.

Instead of a leather one(which are a great classic to the whip family),

a silk rope whip is less intimidating and once you feel this soft whip you'll want two

(seriously, it's very soft!)

Which ever little piece of kink you choose...

remember to have fun responsibly and with consent!

Searching for the great G-Spot

Yes, it's existence has been quite a debate. 

Even without the exact coordinates, 

nearly all women still have areas that they may find particularly stimulating. 

 With this in mind, medical experts say, 

the location of any such G-spot is likely as diverse as their beholders.

  We hope that the large group of women who love sex, 

would not change the ways that they have found to enjoy themselves 

and instead become fixated on making certain to stimulate their G-spot to orgasm every time.

Just relax and have fun!

Whether you have found yours or haven't,

if you're a believer or not...

exploring for a treasure isn't a bad thing right?!?

Here are some products, positions, and tips to help, and to enhance, your exploring!

Products

Shunga Rain of Love G-Spot Arousal Cream

This lovely female formula from Shunga targets the G-spot, increasing blood circulation to your intimate areas for an intense erotic experience.

Included with this exotic cream is a booklet detailing the discovery of your G-spot, a variety of exciting sexual positions, and the proper use of the Rain of Love cream.

Spot On G-Spot Stimulating Gel for Women

this odorless and tasteless gel is making it's way through the grapevine as a fabulous

G-spot stimulator. Just a pea-size amount of this G-Spot stimulating gel

goes to work in moments to excite and arouse your G-Spot.

Toys 

Glass is a favorite of ours, how can you beat a non-pourous and a super easy to clean toy!

Guess what? You can't!

We LOVE the Pink Bent G Dream!

It's pretty and funtional...

This pretty pink G-Spot locator design makes the most of your experience.

It offers the perfect G-Spot location and stimulation; you will be very pleased time and time again.

Note to self...some women prefer a hard surface to be able to reach orgasm.

Next is Doc Johnson's Rock Star Stevie Vibe!

It resembles, a very much more expensive, Lelo's Gigi vibe.

With Doc Johnson making toy's since the 70's,

there's no reason not to trust them to make a sexy toy right, and they have! 

The Stevie Vibe is sleek, powerful and at a fraction of the cost of the Lelo's Gigi, we'll take 2!

Positions 

Doggy Style

Get down on all fours with your man kneeling behind you and have him plunge inside you, grabbing your rear for balance. A little firm, well-placed stroking of your G-spot can open up a whole new orgasmic world. If he’s the exploring kind, encourage him to thrust far enough inside you so that his testicles hit your body.

The Wanton Wheelbarrow

Start by standing and facing a bed or a chair. 

Bend over until your head and arms are resting on its surface. 

Have your man stand behind you and grab one of your ankles. 

Make sure to keep your knee slightly bent 

as you shift your weight to the leg that's still on the ground. 

Lifting your foot to rest near his hip, he should enter you from behind.

In closing, if after ALL this useful info and still no deep G-spot fireworks...

there's no need to fret my pet!

Simply have fun with the exploring and the 'getting-to-know' your body better.

Just worrying and ONLY focusing on finding the G-spot

may be detrimental and damaging to your sexual self-esteem.

It may also discourage those who cannot find it on you.

*On a side note*

Women with an low embarrassment meter, should find out how they react to G-spot stimulation in private, before sharing it with a partner for the first time, since stimulation can elicit strong emotion, anything from laughing, crying and/or (whoa!) squirting.

Blow His Mind!

If there’s one skill that every man would like a woman to have, that is none other than knowing
how to give a B.J., giving head, or a blow job.
The old saying 'you have to give to recieve' doesn't fall far from this advice!

One of the most common mistakes that women make is thinking
that all the work should be done by the man in the relationship.

However, if you want to have a great sex life,
you should do your part and learn about the techniques
in bed that will give him the utmost sexual pleasure.

So what exactly does it take to give a man great head?

Below is a crash course on how to give a man great head,
which will lead him to have an orgasm that he is not bound to forget anytime soon.
So great, that he will want to pay you back again and again and again!

Step 1: Be In A Comfortable Position

Just like penetrative sex,
there are a multitude of positions that you can try while learning how to give a B.J. to your guy.
You can either have him lie down in bed, have him standing up or make him sit on a comfortable couch.

Let’s say that you choose the last position.
What you can do here is kneel in between his legs
so that you can gain easy access to all ‘the goods’.

Although it only takes a few minutes of direct stimulation for a man to have an orgasm especially when you’re using your mouth, you would not want to have things over too soon – so make sure that you’re in a comfortable position while going down on him.

Step 2: Start Giving Him Head By Slowly Licking Him

It doesn’t matter if he’s already hard or not.
The best way to start giving him head is by using your tongue in one long,
slow licking motion from the base of his penis all the way up.

Do this on as many sides of his penis as you can,
then when you feel that he’s all worked up,
that is the time that you can slowly take him into your mouth.

Step 3: Use Your Tongue, Mouth & Fingers

As you slowly take his penis deep into your mouth, make sure that you don’t ignore the rest of his package. Use your tongue, mouth and fingers to stimulate the rest of his shaft.  Use an up and down motion with your fingers to cover the part of the shaft which you cannot take into your mouth. Making an up & down motion with your mouth and hands, is just the beginning,
but don't forget to suck as well.
Creating a suction around his penis encourages more blood flow to his member and more sensation.

Showing him that you are really into it will be a huge turn on, so stare into his eyes and watch his reaction.  Finally, marvel in your sexual prowess at your being able to give him the ultimate pleasure in bed – and use every tool at your disposal to give him a mind-blowing orgasm that he’s not bound to forget anytime soon!

 

Tips

*Don’t forget to gently tug at, lick or even place one of his balls into your mouth
(if you know that he likes it or don't know yet, try it!)
You want to make giving head an extra pleasurable experience and unforgettable for him.

* A great tasty lubricant

is great incentive for the giver of the BJ, besides seeing your guy get off.

*Some guys may even like a pinky or fore finger graze his anal opening or to even be inserted.
(be sure to have neat, short nails.)
If not your finger, a slender vibrator or prostate massager

* Apply slight pressure applied in 'taint' or perineum area
(the area of skin between the scrotum and anal opening) with your thumb.
Lightly grazing with your finger tips will also give a tingle (close to a tickling) sensation.

*For the giver of this oral pleasure,
the gag reflex on some people may be more sensitive than others when attempting some deep throat action. An interesting trick for when you feel the gag reflex coming is to simply swallow.
This takes practice to know not to panic and to time it when
you know are going to place his penis deeper in your mouth.
Relax, breathe through your nose and if all else fails a quick fix is a throat numbing spray

 or gel/balm

 

Warnings

The worst way to receive a blowjob is for the receiver to

actually feel your teeth on him – so keep your teeth covered with your lips.

The best way to prevent accidentally grazing his penis with your teeth is by relaxing your jaw.