Everyone makes mistakes...

We ARE only human,
these are just some mistakes that BOTH men & women

make about their partner...

 

Sex Mistake No.1: You Know What He/She Wants

We often make assumptions about what our partner wants based upon what they've done with other partners. Like a snowflake, no 2 people are the same, we're all different.

You develop a routine as we mature sexually, but we should never assume that what worked for the last person is going to work for this person.

This also applies not only to sexual preferences, but also to relationships,

There are people who can have 'no-strings-attached' sex, and there are people who can get attached very easily, and then everyone in between.

 

Sex Mistake No. 2: You Have All Your Partner Needs

Some women can't have an orgasm with less than 3,000 rpm. No human tongue or fingers can generate that kind of vibration. Some men, need a little something extra to orgasm too! People typically think something is wrong if someone needs a vibrator.

If the only way that a woman/man can achieve orgasm is with a vibrator, they're not broken.

Think of a vibrator as your assistant, not your substitute. Many couples use vibrators together. While you're doing one thing, or two things, the vibrator can be doing something else.
Some couple friendly vibrators, a vibrating cock ring

and when you want to graduate to the big leagues

The We-Vibe II, the couple's vibrator that can be worn while having sex, it won best toy 2 years in a row, and it's still listed as a must have even after coming out years ago!
It's made with medical grade silicone, water proof,
and re-chargeable!

Sex Mistake No. 3: Sex Feels the Same for Men and Women

There tends to be a "huge disconnect" between men and women in the ways that sex feels good.

When a man has intercourse with a woman, and his penis goes into her body, that sensation is so off the charts for most men, they cannot imagine that it isn't feeling the same way for her.
It couldn't be further from the truth.

The inside of the vagina is probably less sensitive than the outer parts for most women.
Also, deep thrusting may not feel so nice on the receiving end for one person to the next.
If the penis is too long, some women may feel like they're getting punched in the stomach.

There are some cock rings out that can act like a 'stopper' for longer penis'.

Not only is this support ring helping with keeping an erection, but depending on where it's placed, can prevent the penis from going in any further.

Sex Mistake No. 4: You Know Your Way Around Your Partner's Anatomy

Most guys know generally what a clitoris is and where to find it.

That's not to say that they really understand it.

More than 30 years ago, at the start of the "sexual revolution," a best-selling book called the Joy of Sex got Americans hip to the orgasmic importance of the clitoris.

But the belief that women must be able to orgasm from ONLY vaginal penetration stubbornly persists.

Outside media such as movies & TV shows don't help the matter.

Now some men STILL think that if their partner can't orgasm from intercourse unless she has clitoral stimulation, that there is a problem.

No it's not a problem, it's perfectly normal.

For the majority of women, an orgasm isn't going to happen with only penetration. 

Men also lack information about how to touch the clitoris and how sensitive it is.

A touch that's bliss for one woman may feel like nothing special to another,

or may even be painful for someone else.

Some prefer indirect stimulation.

How can you find out how she likes to be touched?

This also applies to men, one man may feel fine with a finger up their butt while others want nothing up their butt. The area outside the butt, the perineum is outside of the prostate and a gentle massage of this area may feel great for one guy

and nothing special for the next guy.

The best way to handle something you don't know is to ask or ask while touching your partner,

"How does this feel?".

 

Sex Mistake No. 5: Wet = Turned On

Guys sometimes get hung up if a woman doesn't get slippery enough for easy penetration.

Don't worry about it.

There's a myth that if you're turned on, you're wet,  not necessarily.

Some women tend to get wetter than others, and how much natural lubrication a woman has can change from day to day. It varies by the phase of her menstrual cycle, and it's subject to influences like stress, pre-menopausal and medications.

This is an easy fix, lube

or saliva from performing oral on your partner.

 

Sex Mistake No. 6: Silence Is Golden

A lot of guys think they should be silent during sex, but unless you speak up, your partner has to guess what's doing it for you and what isn't.

If you're respectful about it, a woman who wants to please you will probably appreciate some directions.

We're not saying push her head in your lap, rather 'This is how I like it' or  a simple 'Faster', 'Slower', 'Harder', is a very useful conversation to have.

Happy Friday!